BOO29 – Thankfulness in Turbulent Times

It is hard to imagine being thankful when such horrible things are happening in the world.  The irony is gratitude helps us in turbulent times.   Resources: Essay by Dr. Robert Emmons Gratitude ...

BOO28 – Showing Up

What gives me the courage to show up and let myself be seen?  After a few incidents where I felt like I withheld my perspective or didn’t follow-through on a plan, I thought it was time to refl...

BOO27 – Cultivating Appreciation

Living from an appreciative stance can increase your life expectancy, resilience and creativity.  And it is hard to do.  This episode makes a case for increasing appreciation in our days and shares ...

BOO26 – How Much Is Enough

Brene Brown suggests the opposite of scarcity isnt abundance, it is enough.  Where do we need to reflect on the question, how much is enough?   Resources: Gratitude in Action Abundance and Scarc...

BOO25 – Creating Partnership

Barry Oshry defines partnership as being jointly committed to whatever endeavor we are in.  His work in seeing systems helps us understand much that we experience as personal is not personal at all. ...

BOO24 – Living with Mistakes

Mistakes are a regular occurrence in life so we best learn how to live with and learn from them. Resources: Emotional Bank Account Self Compassion in Action – Best of Ourselves Podcast A Learnin...

BOO23 – Lessons from Our Dogs

Eckhart Tolle calls dogs “the guardians of being”.  What are the other lessons our pets can teach us? Resources: Eckhart Tolle, Modern Dog Magazine Eckhart Tolle and Cesar Millan  ...

BOO22 – The Feedback Dance

Who gets to decide who you are?  How do you stay open to how other’s experience you and learn. And at the same time not let anyone else define you. Resources: Giving Feedback Crucial Conversati...

BOO21 – Kindness

Kindness is a tangible step towards peace.  How do we increase our self kindness and kindness to others. Resources: Self-kindness with Kristen Neff Self Compassion – Best of Ourselves episode ...

BOO20 – Creating Positive Habits

The Best of Ourselves podcast by Marcia Hyatt explores how we can be resilient and creative in these turbulent times. This episode is about how to create more positive habits by knowing ourselves. ...

BOO19 – Avoidance

What we avoid can lead to great suffering.  We have learned to avoid pain as a matter of survival.  However, we cannot selectively numb.  Lessons from Brene Brown and Ron Siegel. Resources: Learn M...

BOO17 – Getting on the Balcony

A classic Harvard Business Review leadership article, The Work of Leadership, has something to teach all of us about how to live with uncertainty and change. Resources: “The Work of Leadership&#...

BOO16 – Becoming What You Might Have Been

We have more power than we usually tap to create our dreams, paraphrasing George Eliot, to become what we might have been. Resources: The Power of Intention Wayne Dyer on the Power of Intention...

BOO15 – Don’t Take It Personally

It is great advice, and very hard to live.  A few thoughts on why we shouldn’t take things personally. Resources: The Four Agreements Don’t Take It Personally, Psychology Today  ...

BOO14 – Creating a Learning Mindset

Reflecting on the work of Carol Dweck.  We can learn to change the channel from our fixed mindset (when we tell ourselves we cannot learn) to a growth mindset (a key for growth and change). Resources...

BOO13 – Busy Without Stress

It is possible to be busy without stress.  There are ways to be busy without doing violence to ourselves.  The more calm we are, the more powerful. Resources: Getting Things Done The Energy Project ...

BOO12 – Confidence

We naturally have confidence. What we need to learn is how to stop undermining it. Resources: Dr Paul Gilbert talking about confidence Rick Hanson Self-Compassion    ...

BOO11- How Do We See Ourselves More Clearly

If we aspire to show up as our best selves, we need to be self-awareness.  Our own contradictions are very hard to see in ourselves. Resources: Women in Leadership Let Your Life Speak  by Parker Pal...

BOO10 – Defensiveness

  Defensiveness is a relational disease. How do we move beyond it to increase the quality of our relationships? Resources: Crucial Conversations  ...

BOO09 – Getting Beyond Irritation

When you notice yourself becoming irritated or angry with someone, it is a great opportunity to learn more about yourself. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding ...

BOO 004: Decision Making

We have have a strong intuition that serves us well. However, we hardly ever catch our own biases....

BOO 003: Acceptance as a Way to Change

When we try to suppress parts of ourselves, they get stronger. Using the work of Roxanne Howe Murphy in Deep Living and Christopher Germer in the Mindful Path to Self Compassion, we explore the power...

BOO 002: Lessons in Projection

Projection is a defense mechanism, where we project what we don't like about ourselves onto others. It's helpful to notice it in action....