BOO95 – Saying Yes

After reading Shonda Rhimes book, Year of Yes, it raised the question, what do I need to say “yes” to? Resources Shonda Rhimes TED Talk Intentionally Authoring the Next Chapter – Po...

BOO94 – What are the weeds in my life?

It takes a patient garden to remove the weeds from the roots. It takes a patient self-observer to remove the weeds from our life.   Resources Persistence Helps – Podcast Stop Feeding Your I...

BOO94 – REPEAT Finding Kindness

Kindness is all around us.  It is uplifting to notice and remember how many small acts of kindness are in our days.   Resources Self Kindness – Neff Self-Kindness – Germer Random Act...

BOO93 – Celebrating Community

We are interconnected. We can accomplish so much more together.  And the quality of our lives is greatly enhanced when we learn how to be in community. Resources Women’s Leadership Community &#...

BOO92 – Voice Lessons

Do you speak your true voice? Or do you contort it to avoid judgment or to be “right”.  Some reflections on using my voice. Resources Becoming Wise by Krista Tippet A Sense of Personal V...

BOO91- Building Capability

What you focus on makes a huge difference in your well-being.  For example, what do you reflect upon. If you reflect on overcoming challenges or formative experiences you are building your capacity. ...

BOO90 – Living in Uncertainty

We are living in unpredictable times. It is a mistake to think tomorrow will be like today.  The book Simple Habits for Complex Times has several very practical tips. Resources Jennifer Garvey Berger...

BOO89 – Are You Listening

It takes discipline to listen; an intentional focus.  And there is not better way to invest in a relationship, learn and dance through conflict.  What supports our listening? Resources 10 Steps for ...

BOO88 – Year-end Reflection

The wisest ones are self-aware.  We each can develop this capacity by taking time to reflect.  The end of the year is a great time to reflect on what has been and what is emerging.   Resources ...

BOO87- Thankful

One of the most powerful things we can do for our mental health is notice our blessings and express thanks.  It not only makes a difference in your life, it affects those around you as well. Resource...

BOO86 – Presence with a C

Many of us deal with stress during the holiday season. This podcast has a few reminders about how to focus on what matters most. Resources Stress, Depression and the Holidays – Mayo Clinic Tips...

BOO85 – Witnessing

It can be hard to be with another when they are suffering. Many of us try to cheer them up or offer advice to “help” them.  It is much harder and more powerful to learn how to be present,...

BOO83 – REPEAT Healing the Heart – Habit 4

In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he talks about 5 habits of the heart we need for a robust democracy.  Habit 4 is  A sense of personal voice and agency. “Insight...

BOO79 – Changing the Script

Non-complementary behavior — when we response in a way that changes the script.  For example, meeting hostility with warm or empathy.  Three stories of changing the script. Resources Invisibil...

BOO78 – Celebrating Partnership

An interview with leading human systems thinker, Barry Oshry.  In 2013,Oshry created the Worldwide Week of Partnership.  After learning about the holocaust as a child, he has pursued a life-long que...

BOO77 – Neither Good or Bad

A colleague asked how I defined positive emotions, as she thought of emotions neither good or bad.  I agree, and there is a life-giving energy when we remember to be grateful, kind and open-hearted....

BOO76 – Bloom Where You Are Planted

Bloom where you are planted involves accepting what is and using our life force in a way that matters.  Stories of different people who have chosen to bloom in difficult circumstances.   Resourc...

BOO75 – What Emotions Are You Spreading?

Emotions are contagious.  How do we spread more positive and less negative emotions?   Resources Daniel Goleman Blog Rick Hanson – Neuroscience of Happiness Developing Positive Emotions Bl...

BOO74- Procrastination – Repeat

20% of us are chronic procrastinators and most of us experience it now and again.  Researcher are learning it is not a simple time management issue, for many of us it is an emotional issue. In this e...

BOO72- Persistence Helps

Persistence can be developed.  And it is critical for you to create a life that focuses on what matters most.  In this episode are some times for cultivating persistence.   Resources Robert Keg...

BOO71 – Being Kind to Myself

When we notice how hard we can be on ourselves, we beginning the process of being kinder to ourselves.  Using the work of Kristen Neff and Brene Brown, we explore the essentials of self compassion. &...

BOO70-Primed to Be My Best

Priming are subtle influencers and affect our behavior.  So why not prime ourselves to show up as our best selves.   Resources Blink on Priming TED Radio Hour – Why We Lie?  ...

BOO69 – Whole-hearted Decisions

Great decisions require more than our heads.  How do we bring our whole selves to the decision-making.   Resources Like it or not emotions will drive your decisions today Getting Out of Our Head...

BOO68 – Beyond Lists

Growing and changing, in a sustainable way, means we need to understand what is rooting our current behavior.   Resources: How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work One Simple Exercise to Me...

BOO67 – Just Ask

Assumptions can get us into trouble.  Instead of responding to each other based on assumptions, just ask.   Resources Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein The Four Agreements by Miquel Ruiz “The...

BOO66 – No Place Like Home

There is no place like home.  In this episode, we explore how to create more hospitality in the world.  Starting with being at home with ourselves.   Resources The Pyschology of Home A Force fo...

BOO65 – Gratitude in Action – Repeat

Due to the unexpected death of my dear mother-in-law, I am reposting a show from last July on gratitude. Enjoy! Gratitude in action has numerous benefits documented by research (for example:  health,...

BOO64 – Hope Helps

The news is disturbing.  It is hard to hold onto hope.  This podcast explores where we can find hope. Resources Forgotten Voices Pyschology Today – Making Hope Happen Parker Palmer – Pol...

BOO63 – Multi-Tasking

Multi-tasking has the illusion of helping us go faster.  It doesnt.  And new evidence shows it makes us more tired as well.  What are some strategies to stay more present?   Resources The Atla...

BOO62 – Living on Purpose Continued

Legacy is such a big word.  This podcast has more reflections on what it means to live on purpose; creating a legacy and living each moment. Resources Resources: Let Your Life Speak Legacy Project Wh...

BOO61 – Living On Purpose

At the end of my Uncle’s funeral, someone said, hearing about his life makes we want to be a better person.  That is the kind of legacy I would like to have…   Resources: Let Your Li...

REPEAT: Missing Moments of Joy

Due to family illness and a death in the family, I just didnt have the energy to do a show.  I have been thinking a lot about legacy so tune in next week. In the meantime, here the show that WTIP re-...

BOO60 – Energizers Make a Difference

Energizers as a part of a team create huge value.  People learn more, are more creative, and want to work there…  So whan can you or I do to increase our energizer behavior?   Resources W...

BOO59- Where Do I Have Enthusiasm?

The root of the word enthusiasm means divine inspired.  It raises the questions, where is my enthusiasm?  What brings me alive and on purpose?   Resources: Centering Leadership Introduction Le...

BOO58 – What Am I Avoiding

It is a powerful question to ask yourself regularly:  What Am I Avoiding?  You will learn more about yourself and become more intentional in your choices.  It is understandable to avoid discomfort ...

BOO57 – Dancing with Conflict

Now on Bloglovin When we frame arguments as war, we have winners and losers, we attack, we defend, we shoot down their points.  No wonder many of us avoid conflict.  What if we framed conflict as a ...

BOO56 – Finding Community

We are stronger when we work together.  Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full Parker Palmer Interview Power and Love show on building co...

BOO55- Being Unkind to Myself

How often are we hard on ourselves?  How often do we deny our feelings or push through?  What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind?  In this episode, we explore what to do when we o...

BOO54 – Positivity Ratio

When I lose hope, it is time to revisit Barbara Frederickson’s work on positive emotions.  Her research shows the impact of having a 3-1 ratio positive emotion to negative emotion can support i...

BOO53 – What Energy Do You Bring

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”  Henry David Th...

BOO52 – Getting Out of Our Head to Make Choices

We make choices all day long. It is how we sculpt our lives.  We need to get out of head-centric approach and invite the body into the conversation. Resources: Out of Our Heads – Interview with...

BOO51 – Motivation

So many of us rely on incentives or punishments to motivate others.  The carrot only works for the most routine of tasks. To capture commitment, we need to learn how to focus on autonomy, mastery and...

BOO50- A Force for Kindness

How do we learn to be a force for kindness?  To not bully others and learn how to stand up to bullying forces.  Reflections on finding the courage to be stand up for civil discourse.   Resource...

BOO49 – Getting Unstuck

We learn certain behaviors as children to cope with the world. Over time, the patterns we learned to create stability in our lives can become rigid.  How do we move from this place of rigidity (stuc...