BOO55- Being Unkind to Myself

How often are we hard on ourselves?  How often do we deny our feelings or push through?  What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind?  In this episode, we explore what to do when we o...

BOO54 – Positivity Ratio

When I lose hope, it is time to revisit Barbara Frederickson’s work on positive emotions.  Her research shows the impact of having a 3-1 ratio positive emotion to negative emotion can support i...

BOO53 – What Energy Do You Bring

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”  Henry David Th...

BOO51 – Motivation

So many of us rely on incentives or punishments to motivate others.  The carrot only works for the most routine of tasks. To capture commitment, we need to learn how to focus on autonomy, mastery and...

BOO50- A Force for Kindness

How do we learn to be a force for kindness?  To not bully others and learn how to stand up to bullying forces.  Reflections on finding the courage to be stand up for civil discourse.   Resource...

BOO49 – Getting Unstuck

We learn certain behaviors as children to cope with the world. Over time, the patterns we learned to create stability in our lives can become rigid.  How do we move from this place of rigidity (stuc...

BOO48 – Stop Feeding Your Inner Critic

How we stop feeding the inner critic?  Treating it as real only strengthens its hold.  A few thoughts from the work of Roxanne Howe Murphy. Resources 4 Ways to Overcome Your Inner Critic 5 Ways to ...

BOO47 – River Stories – Repeat

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut, unable to see our way out. Dawna Markova provides a beautiful metaphor and process on how to move from a Rut to a River Story.     Resources 4- Part Retreat ...

BOO45 – Cabin Fever – Special Edition

WTIP, our beloved local radio station, had a fundraiser entitled “Cabin Fever”.  They asked me to spend a little time talking about coping with cabin fever. You can listen to this intervi...

BOO43 – Finding Kindness

Kindness is all around us.  It is uplifting to notice and remember how many small acts of kindness are in our days.   Resources Self Kindness – Neff Self-Kindness – Germer Random Act...

BOO42 – What Are You For?

As Sam Rayburn said, “Any jackass can kick down a barn, but it takes a good carpenter to build one.”  It is easy for each of us to know what we are against.  But it is worth doing the ha...

BOO41 – Lessons in Vulnerability

We mistakenly think strength is the opposite of vulnerable.  Brene Brown’s work turns that notion on it’s head. It is only through vulnerability that we access the really meaningful thing...

BOO40 – Lessons in Mindfulness

In such an action-oriented world it is hard to learn how to be still.  Yet, that practice builds awareness and capacity to be present.  This is the third lesson from doing this radio show — wi...

BOO39 – Lessons in Gratitude

If you do any research on well-being, gratitude practices will likely show up.  Learning that and incorporating that into my life are 2 different things.   Resources Greater Good: The Science of...

BOO37-Reflection on the Year

To become more whole, we need to be self-aware. To become more self-aware, we need a practice of reflection.  The end of the year is a wonderful time to reflect on the experiences of the previous yea...

BOO36- Changing Behavior – A Special Edition

When we set intentions for the new year, we often find we want to change a habit or become a bit more intentional.  In this special 10 minute podcast, we explore different types of change and what se...

BOO35 – Habits of the Heart – Habit 5

This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy.  The 5th habit is: “A capacity to create community. W...

BOO34 – Stress Resilience – Special Edition

Many of us experience stress during the holidays.  In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up. Resources: University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and H...

BOO29 – Thankfulness in Turbulent Times

It is hard to imagine being thankful when such horrible things are happening in the world.  The irony is gratitude helps us in turbulent times.   Resources: Essay by Dr. Robert Emmons Gratitude ...

BOO28 – Showing Up

What gives me the courage to show up and let myself be seen?  After a few incidents where I felt like I withheld my perspective or didn’t follow-through on a plan, I thought it was time to refl...

BOO27 – Cultivating Appreciation

Living from an appreciative stance can increase your life expectancy, resilience and creativity.  And it is hard to do.  This episode makes a case for increasing appreciation in our days and shares ...

BOO26 – How Much Is Enough

Brene Brown suggests the opposite of scarcity isnt abundance, it is enough.  Where do we need to reflect on the question, how much is enough?   Resources: Gratitude in Action Abundance and Scarc...

BOO25 – Creating Partnership

Barry Oshry defines partnership as being jointly committed to whatever endeavor we are in.  His work in seeing systems helps us understand much that we experience as personal is not personal at all. ...

BOO24 – Living with Mistakes

Mistakes are a regular occurrence in life so we best learn how to live with and learn from them. Resources: Emotional Bank Account Self Compassion in Action – Best of Ourselves Podcast A Learnin...

BOO23 – Lessons from Our Dogs

Eckhart Tolle calls dogs “the guardians of being”.  What are the other lessons our pets can teach us? Resources: Eckhart Tolle, Modern Dog Magazine Eckhart Tolle and Cesar Millan  ...

BOO22 – The Feedback Dance

Who gets to decide who you are?  How do you stay open to how other’s experience you and learn. And at the same time not let anyone else define you. Resources: Giving Feedback Crucial Conversati...

BOO21 – Kindness

Kindness is a tangible step towards peace.  How do we increase our self kindness and kindness to others. Resources: Self-kindness with Kristen Neff Self Compassion – Best of Ourselves episode ...

BOO20 – Creating Positive Habits

The Best of Ourselves podcast by Marcia Hyatt explores how we can be resilient and creative in these turbulent times. This episode is about how to create more positive habits by knowing ourselves. ...

BOO19 – Avoidance

What we avoid can lead to great suffering.  We have learned to avoid pain as a matter of survival.  However, we cannot selectively numb.  Lessons from Brene Brown and Ron Siegel. Resources: Learn M...

BOO17 – Getting on the Balcony

A classic Harvard Business Review leadership article, The Work of Leadership, has something to teach all of us about how to live with uncertainty and change. Resources: “The Work of Leadership&#...

BOO16 – Becoming What You Might Have Been

We have more power than we usually tap to create our dreams, paraphrasing George Eliot, to become what we might have been. Resources: The Power of Intention Wayne Dyer on the Power of Intention...

BOO15 – Don’t Take It Personally

It is great advice, and very hard to live.  A few thoughts on why we shouldn’t take things personally. Resources: The Four Agreements Don’t Take It Personally, Psychology Today  ...

BOO14 – Creating a Learning Mindset

Reflecting on the work of Carol Dweck.  We can learn to change the channel from our fixed mindset (when we tell ourselves we cannot learn) to a growth mindset (a key for growth and change). Resources...

BOO13 – Busy Without Stress

It is possible to be busy without stress.  There are ways to be busy without doing violence to ourselves.  The more calm we are, the more powerful. Resources: Getting Things Done The Energy Project ...

BOO12 – Confidence

We naturally have confidence. What we need to learn is how to stop undermining it. Resources: Dr Paul Gilbert talking about confidence Rick Hanson Self-Compassion    ...

BOO11- How Do We See Ourselves More Clearly

If we aspire to show up as our best selves, we need to be self-awareness.  Our own contradictions are very hard to see in ourselves. Resources: Women in Leadership Let Your Life Speak  by Parker Pal...

BOO10 – Defensiveness

  Defensiveness is a relational disease. How do we move beyond it to increase the quality of our relationships? Resources: Crucial Conversations  ...

BOO09 – Getting Beyond Irritation

When you notice yourself becoming irritated or angry with someone, it is a great opportunity to learn more about yourself. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding ...

BOO 004: Decision Making

We have have a strong intuition that serves us well. However, we hardly ever catch our own biases....