BOO79 – Changing the Script

Non-complementary behavior — when we response in a way that changes the script.  For example, meeting hostility with warm or empathy.  Three stories of changing the script. Resources Invisibil...

BOO78 – Celebrating Partnership

An interview with leading human systems thinker, Barry Oshry.  In 2013,Oshry created the Worldwide Week of Partnership.  After learning about the holocaust as a child, he has pursued a life-long que...

BOO77 – Neither Good or Bad

A colleague asked how I defined positive emotions, as she thought of emotions neither good or bad.  I agree, and there is a life-giving energy when we remember to be grateful, kind and open-hearted....

BOO76 – Bloom Where You Are Planted

Bloom where you are planted involves accepting what is and using our life force in a way that matters.  Stories of different people who have chosen to bloom in difficult circumstances.   Resourc...

BOO75 – What Emotions Are You Spreading?

Emotions are contagious.  How do we spread more positive and less negative emotions?   Resources Daniel Goleman Blog Rick Hanson – Neuroscience of Happiness Developing Positive Emotions Bl...

BOO74- Procrastination – Repeat

20% of us are chronic procrastinators and most of us experience it now and again.  Researcher are learning it is not a simple time management issue, for many of us it is an emotional issue. In this e...

BOO72- Persistence Helps

Persistence can be developed.  And it is critical for you to create a life that focuses on what matters most.  In this episode are some times for cultivating persistence.   Resources Robert Keg...

BOO69 – Whole-hearted Decisions

Great decisions require more than our heads.  How do we bring our whole selves to the decision-making.   Resources Like it or not emotions will drive your decisions today Getting Out of Our Head...

BOO67 – Just Ask

Assumptions can get us into trouble.  Instead of responding to each other based on assumptions, just ask.   Resources Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein The Four Agreements by Miquel Ruiz “The...

BOO66 – No Place Like Home

There is no place like home.  In this episode, we explore how to create more hospitality in the world.  Starting with being at home with ourselves.   Resources The Pyschology of Home A Force fo...

BOO65 – Gratitude in Action – Repeat

Due to the unexpected death of my dear mother-in-law, I am reposting a show from last July on gratitude. Enjoy! Gratitude in action has numerous benefits documented by research (for example:  health,...

BOO64 – Hope Helps

The news is disturbing.  It is hard to hold onto hope.  This podcast explores where we can find hope. Resources Forgotten Voices Pyschology Today – Making Hope Happen Parker Palmer – Pol...

BOO63 – Multi-Tasking

Multi-tasking has the illusion of helping us go faster.  It doesnt.  And new evidence shows it makes us more tired as well.  What are some strategies to stay more present?   Resources The Atla...

BOO62 – Living on Purpose Continued

Legacy is such a big word.  This podcast has more reflections on what it means to live on purpose; creating a legacy and living each moment. Resources Resources: Let Your Life Speak Legacy Project Wh...

BOO61 – Living On Purpose

At the end of my Uncle’s funeral, someone said, hearing about his life makes we want to be a better person.  That is the kind of legacy I would like to have…   Resources: Let Your Li...

REPEAT: Missing Moments of Joy

Due to family illness and a death in the family, I just didnt have the energy to do a show.  I have been thinking a lot about legacy so tune in next week. In the meantime, here the show that WTIP re-...

BOO60 – Energizers Make a Difference

Energizers as a part of a team create huge value.  People learn more, are more creative, and want to work there…  So whan can you or I do to increase our energizer behavior?   Resources W...

BOO59- Where Do I Have Enthusiasm?

The root of the word enthusiasm means divine inspired.  It raises the questions, where is my enthusiasm?  What brings me alive and on purpose?   Resources: Centering Leadership Introduction Le...

BOO58 – What Am I Avoiding

It is a powerful question to ask yourself regularly:  What Am I Avoiding?  You will learn more about yourself and become more intentional in your choices.  It is understandable to avoid discomfort ...

BOO57 – Dancing with Conflict

Now on Bloglovin When we frame arguments as war, we have winners and losers, we attack, we defend, we shoot down their points.  No wonder many of us avoid conflict.  What if we framed conflict as a ...

BOO56 – Finding Community

We are stronger when we work together.  Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full Parker Palmer Interview Power and Love show on building co...

BOO55- Being Unkind to Myself

How often are we hard on ourselves?  How often do we deny our feelings or push through?  What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind?  In this episode, we explore what to do when we o...

BOO54 – Positivity Ratio

When I lose hope, it is time to revisit Barbara Frederickson’s work on positive emotions.  Her research shows the impact of having a 3-1 ratio positive emotion to negative emotion can support i...

BOO53 – What Energy Do You Bring

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”  Henry David Th...

BOO51 – Motivation

So many of us rely on incentives or punishments to motivate others.  The carrot only works for the most routine of tasks. To capture commitment, we need to learn how to focus on autonomy, mastery and...

BOO50- A Force for Kindness

How do we learn to be a force for kindness?  To not bully others and learn how to stand up to bullying forces.  Reflections on finding the courage to be stand up for civil discourse.   Resource...

BOO49 – Getting Unstuck

We learn certain behaviors as children to cope with the world. Over time, the patterns we learned to create stability in our lives can become rigid.  How do we move from this place of rigidity (stuc...

BOO48 – Stop Feeding Your Inner Critic

How we stop feeding the inner critic?  Treating it as real only strengthens its hold.  A few thoughts from the work of Roxanne Howe Murphy. Resources 4 Ways to Overcome Your Inner Critic 5 Ways to ...

BOO47 – River Stories – Repeat

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut, unable to see our way out. Dawna Markova provides a beautiful metaphor and process on how to move from a Rut to a River Story.     Resources 4- Part Retreat ...

BOO45 – Cabin Fever – Special Edition

WTIP, our beloved local radio station, had a fundraiser entitled “Cabin Fever”.  They asked me to spend a little time talking about coping with cabin fever. You can listen to this intervi...

BOO43 – Finding Kindness

Kindness is all around us.  It is uplifting to notice and remember how many small acts of kindness are in our days.   Resources Self Kindness – Neff Self-Kindness – Germer Random Act...

BOO42 – What Are You For?

As Sam Rayburn said, “Any jackass can kick down a barn, but it takes a good carpenter to build one.”  It is easy for each of us to know what we are against.  But it is worth doing the ha...

BOO41 – Lessons in Vulnerability

We mistakenly think strength is the opposite of vulnerable.  Brene Brown’s work turns that notion on it’s head. It is only through vulnerability that we access the really meaningful thing...

BOO40 – Lessons in Mindfulness

In such an action-oriented world it is hard to learn how to be still.  Yet, that practice builds awareness and capacity to be present.  This is the third lesson from doing this radio show — wi...

BOO39 – Lessons in Gratitude

If you do any research on well-being, gratitude practices will likely show up.  Learning that and incorporating that into my life are 2 different things.   Resources Greater Good: The Science of...

BOO37-Reflection on the Year

To become more whole, we need to be self-aware. To become more self-aware, we need a practice of reflection.  The end of the year is a wonderful time to reflect on the experiences of the previous yea...

BOO36- Changing Behavior – A Special Edition

When we set intentions for the new year, we often find we want to change a habit or become a bit more intentional.  In this special 10 minute podcast, we explore different types of change and what se...

BOO35 – Habits of the Heart – Habit 5

This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy.  The 5th habit is: “A capacity to create community. W...

BOO34 – Stress Resilience – Special Edition

Many of us experience stress during the holidays.  In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up. Resources: University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and H...

BOO29 – Thankfulness in Turbulent Times

It is hard to imagine being thankful when such horrible things are happening in the world.  The irony is gratitude helps us in turbulent times.   Resources: Essay by Dr. Robert Emmons Gratitude ...

BOO28 – Showing Up

What gives me the courage to show up and let myself be seen?  After a few incidents where I felt like I withheld my perspective or didn’t follow-through on a plan, I thought it was time to refl...