BOO150 – REPEAT Giving Feedback is Tricky

Feedback is highly valued in our culture.  It is assumed that organizations rich in feedback are more productive.  In this episode, we explore some research and neuroscience that challenges that ass...

BOO143 – Taking a Stand for Kindness

Kindness means being caring and considerate. It does not mean not speaking up or doing tough stuff.  How would it change my days if I took a conscious stand for kindness? Resources Psychology Today &...

BOO142 – Civility

What’s wrong with civility?  Exploring how civility is not an exercise in politeness but more a practice of speaking your truth without diminishing someone else’s. Resources The Institute...

BOO141 – Defensiveness

Why do I get defensive and what will make me more open to other’s perceptions? Resources Dr John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen Dr Carol Dweck on Mindsets...

BOO133 – Cultivating Gratefulness for World Peace

Expressing gratitude knits a community together. It creates a positive ripple of connection.  It is easily done and it is one small way we can contribute to a healthy community. Resources Daily Good ...

BOO132- Hard to Hate Up Close

Brene Brown, in her new book, says it is hard to hate up close, move in.  We are living in the  land where us and them is more common then the notion that we are all in this together.  We each can ...

BOO130 – It’s Contagious, Pass It On

Kindness is contagious.  People who witness or receive kindness are more likely to be kind.  It isn’t that hard. How do we bring more kindness into our communities? Resources Kindness is conta...

BOO129 – Celebrating Kindness Part 2

We do have the capacity for great cruelty and great kindness.  I’m curious how to grow the kindness side of nature.  To support that reflection, I am sharing a few local stories that celebrate...

BOO128 – Celebrating Kindness Part 1

We do have the capacity for great cruelty and great kindness.  I’m curious how to grow the kindness side of nature.  To support that reflection, I am sharing a few local stories that celebrate...

BOO127 – REPEAT Thankful

One of the most powerful things we can do for our mental health is notice our blessings and express thanks.  It not only makes a difference in your life, it affects those around you as well. Resource...

BOO124 – REPEAT – Cultivating Community

We are ahead of most communities.  We have a community that knows how to care and extend kindness.  Now to build on that ability to respectfully disagree. Resources Parker Palmer’s Habits of t...

BOO117 – Feedback Part 2

If feedback seems to be the best options, it is helpful to use some basic communication tools to keep it constructive. Resources Books – Crucial Conversations and Difficult Conversations Podcast...

BOO116 – Giving Feedback is Tricky

Feedback is highly valued in our culture.  It is assumed that organizations rich in feedback are more productive.  In this episode, we explore some research and neuroscience that challenges that ass...

BOO114- Facing Hatred

It is important to find a way to take a stand for love and at the same time face our own shadows. Resources Understanding Our Shadow Implicit Association Test – About Implicit Association Test &...

BOBOO4 – Celebrating Kindness

“This program is funded in part by the Community Opportunity Fund of the Duluth Superior Area Community Foundation.” Some feel kindness is the antidote to hatefulness. It does knit a community tog...

BOO105 – Cultivating Caring Communities

We are ahead of most communities.  We have a community that knows how to care and extend kindness.  Now to build on that ability to respectfully disagree. Resources Parker Palmer’s Habits of t...

Repeat – Habit of the Heart – 5

This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy.  The 5th habit is: “A capacity to create community. W...

Repeat – Habit of the Heart -3

Parker Palmer believes that if taken together, the 5 habits are critical to sustaining a democracy.  The habits are described as deeply ingrained ways of seeing, being and responding to life that i...

Repeat – Habit of the Heart -2

This podcast explores Habit 2 in the Parker Palmer’s 5 Habits of the Heart; habits that are critical for a vibrant democracy.  This habit is entitled: An Appreciation of the Value of Otherness....

Repeat – Habit of the Heart -1

In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he cites 5 habits of the heart that will help us move beyond fear.  Using excerpts from a 2013 interview, we examine the first habit — we ...

BOO98 – REPEAT – Just Ask

Assumptions can get us into trouble.  Instead of responding to each other based on assumptions, just ask.   Resources Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein The Four Agreements by Miquel Ruiz “The...

BOO93 – Celebrating Community

We are interconnected. We can accomplish so much more together.  And the quality of our lives is greatly enhanced when we learn how to be in community. Resources Women’s Leadership Community &#...

BOO89 – Are You Listening

It takes discipline to listen; an intentional focus.  And there is not better way to invest in a relationship, learn and dance through conflict.  What supports our listening? Resources 10 Steps for ...

BOO85 – Witnessing

It can be hard to be with another when they are suffering. Many of us try to cheer them up or offer advice to “help” them.  It is much harder and more powerful to learn how to be present,...

BOO83 – REPEAT Healing the Heart – Habit 4

In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he talks about 5 habits of the heart we need for a robust democracy.  Habit 4 is  A sense of personal voice and agency. “Insight...

BOO79 – Changing the Script

Non-complementary behavior — when we response in a way that changes the script.  For example, meeting hostility with warm or empathy.  Three stories of changing the script. Resources Invisibil...

BOO78 – Celebrating Partnership

An interview with leading human systems thinker, Barry Oshry.  In 2013,Oshry created the Worldwide Week of Partnership.  After learning about the holocaust as a child, he has pursued a life-long que...

BOO67 – Just Ask

Assumptions can get us into trouble.  Instead of responding to each other based on assumptions, just ask.   Resources Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein The Four Agreements by Miquel Ruiz “The...

BOO64 – Hope Helps

The news is disturbing.  It is hard to hold onto hope.  This podcast explores where we can find hope. Resources Forgotten Voices Pyschology Today – Making Hope Happen Parker Palmer – Pol...

BOO60 – Energizers Make a Difference

Energizers as a part of a team create huge value.  People learn more, are more creative, and want to work there…  So whan can you or I do to increase our energizer behavior?   Resources W...

BOO57 – Dancing with Conflict

Now on Bloglovin When we frame arguments as war, we have winners and losers, we attack, we defend, we shoot down their points.  No wonder many of us avoid conflict.  What if we framed conflict as a ...

BOO56 – Finding Community

We are stronger when we work together.  Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full Parker Palmer Interview Power and Love show on building co...

BOO50- A Force for Kindness

How do we learn to be a force for kindness?  To not bully others and learn how to stand up to bullying forces.  Reflections on finding the courage to be stand up for civil discourse.   Resource...

BOO43 – Finding Kindness

Kindness is all around us.  It is uplifting to notice and remember how many small acts of kindness are in our days.   Resources Self Kindness – Neff Self-Kindness – Germer Random Act...

BOO35 – Habits of the Heart – Habit 5

This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy.  The 5th habit is: “A capacity to create community. W...

BOO21 – Kindness

Kindness is a tangible step towards peace.  How do we increase our self kindness and kindness to others. Resources: Self-kindness with Kristen Neff Self Compassion – Best of Ourselves episode ...

BOO15 – Don’t Take It Personally

It is great advice, and very hard to live.  A few thoughts on why we shouldn’t take things personally. Resources: The Four Agreements Don’t Take It Personally, Psychology Today  ...