BOO296 – Healing the Divide
How do we flatten the curve of hate (paraphrasing Rev. Rosemary Klass). A foundational study of boys in the 1950s provides some ideas of how we can ...
BOO295 – Encore- Emotions Impact Perception
We think we experience “reality”. However, what we perceive is greatly filtered. One filter, that is helpful to understand, is how o...
BOO294 – Encore – Being Unkind to Myself
How often are we hard on ourselves? How often do we deny our feelings or push through? What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being ...
BOO293- Encore – Finding Community
We are stronger when we work together. Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full ...
BOO292 – Encore – Lessons in Projection
We can learn about about ourselves when we pay attention to what bothers us about others....
BOO291- Encore – Missing Moments of Joy
We cannot selectively numb our feelings. In other words, if you avoid suffering, you also miss out on joy. And when joy comes, many of us forbid...
BOO290 – Encore – Defensiveness
Defensiveness is a relational disease. How do we move beyond it to increase the quality of our relationships? Resources Tuning in vs Changing the Chan...
BOO289 – Encore – Enoughness
It is radical to imagine we don’t have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness. Resour...
BOO288-What Are You For?
Shifting her focus from fighting hate to focus on leading a movement called Revolutionary Love, Valarie Kaur is an inspiration. Resources Valarie Kaur...
BOO287 – Tuning In Vs Changing the Channel
I was wrong, I didn’t know any better. My coaching on how to change the channel on our feelings was wrong. Resources Centering v Reacting ...
BOO286 – Advice on Advice
“What I think you should do is…” These words are often intended to be helpful but may miss the mark. Resources Moving from Jud...
BOO285 – Learning to Receive Feedback
It is hard to stay open and curious when someone give us feedback. Especially when the feedback doesn’t match our self-image. It is an imp...
BOO284 – Compose with the Unfolding
Working with the intention, compose with the unfolding, has supported me in being more present with what is emerging (even the not so fun stuff). ...
BOO283 – Fierce Self-Compassion
Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn. Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of ...
BOO282 – Lessons From FeBe
It has been a tough time. We have been dealing with illness, death and uncertainty. With all of the heartache, there have been some valuab...
BOO281- Moving from Judging to Encouraging
It is so easy to spend time judging ourselves or others. Often it is a waste of energy. How do we convert our tendency to judge to create a tend...
BOO280 – Encore – Listening Between Words
If we are going to have productive conversations and build community, we need to grow our capacity to listen. And we need to reduce our capacity to ge...
BOO279 – Choosing To Be Free
We are not truly free when we are trapped by hatred and prejudice. What supports us being more free of reactions, blaming and instead choose our...
BOO278 – Encore – Getting Perspective
We need to conscious about what we pay attention to. If we only focus on what is wrong, we lose perspective. Resources Brene Brown “Ask Me...
BOO277 – Changing the World Three Feet at a Time
How do we focus our attention to positively impact the three feet around us? Resources Loving Our Community Change is Always Possible Fearless Dialogu...
BOO276 – Encore – What Are You Referring To?
One key to a construction conversation, is to be genuinely curious about the other person’s experience. Otherwise, we are just debating co...
BOO275 – Centering versus Reacting
Choosing our response versus reacting. What practices invite you to be fully present and grounded? Resources Wendy Palmer, Leadership Embodiment...
BOO274- Loving Our Community
How do we strengthened our ability to love our neighbors? A few inspiring stories and lesson. Resources Fearless Dialogues, Dr Ellis Antoinette ...
BOO273 – Fumbling Forward
Conversations about politics, race, the environment or other heated topics are hard to have. How do we create an agreement that allows us to fum...
BOO272 – Owning Our Story
To become fully free, we need to learn how to own the whole of our story with compassion. We need to integrate all of our experience, even the c...
BOO271 – Encore -Turn Off the Alarm System
Dr Arlie Hochschild traveled from Berkley to Louisiana to understand our political divide. Her clear purpose supported her in turning off her al...
BOO270 – Encore – Moving From Complaints to Choice
When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating from my best self. It’s time to slow down and explore my choices because living...
BOO269 – Come Out Wherever You Are
We need to heal to create joy in our lives. We need to heal to make social justice possible. But first, we need to stop hiding… Resources ...
BOO268 – Puzzling Times
Anne Swallow Gillis is a recently retired Protestant Pastor, aspiring writer and jigsaw puzzle fan. In this edition of Best of Ourselves, she shares h...
BOO267 – ENCORE- Acceptance
The paradox of sustainable change is learning to truly accept the parts of ourselves we want to “fix”. Resources Reacting Podcast Christop...
BOO266 – Women
Is there still an issue with women’s voices? Sure. But the trick is to notice when it’s happening. Resources Whe We Aren’t Mak...
BOO265- Thriving
We can support our thriving by avoiding negativity and managing our energy. We all need a bit more TLC right now. Resources How to Thrive When E...
BOO264 – Enoughness
It is radical to imagine we don’t have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness. Resour...
BOO263 – Laughter
Instead of the intense reflection on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challening times. Resources Stress Relief ...
BOO262 – Imprisoned in Our Story
We breath in a worldview from our culture and families. But, unless examined, it is just the way things are. Resources Brené Brown with Sonya R...
BOO261 – Facts and Faith
You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose —with the disciplineto confront the most brutal f...
BOO260 – ENCORE- Creating Kindness Stories
We become the stories we tell ourselves. Celebrating kindness to create a community of care. Resources Kindness as a Strategy Taking a Stand for...
BOO259 – Rethinking Rituals
Rituals provide comfort, especially in stressful times. The pandemic is providing us with an opportunity to think through what is a “should do&#...
BOO258 – Change is Always Possible
You can teach an old dog new tricks. Our brains are malleable and change with every interaction. Yes, we are wired to operate from habit but we ...
BOO257 – Moving From Complaints to Choice
When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating from my best self. It’s time to slow down and explore my choices because living...
BOO256 – Encore – Easy Questions for Complex Times
We have to stretch our capacity to thrive in complex times. Dr. Jennifer Garvey Berger offers 3 simple questions to help us open up to new possi...
BOO255 – Intentionality
We have a lot more choice than we remember. It is so easy to spend the day being reactive. And if we pause, and reflect on what we would like to...
BOO254 – Turning Off Our Alarm Systems
Dr Arlie Hochschild traveled from Berkley to Louisiana to understand our political divide. Her clear purpose supported her in turning off her al...
BOO253 – What Are You Referring To?
One key to a constructive conversation, is to be genuinely curious about the other person’s experience. Otherwise, we are just debating conclu...
BOO252 – Encore – Habits of the Heart – Habit 5
This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy. ...
BOO251 – Encore – Habits of the Heart – Habit 4
In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he talks about 5 habits of the heart we need for a robust democracy. Habit 4 is&n...
BOO250 – Encore – Habits of the Heart – Habit 3
Parker Palmer believes that if taken together, the 5 habits are critical to sustaining a democracy. The habits are described as deeply...
BOO249 – Encore- Habits of the Heart – Habit 2
This podcast explores Habit 2 in the Parker Palmer’s 5 Habits of the Heart; habits that are critical for a vibrant democracy. This habit i...